Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Public Displays of Affection

Imagine this: You've met a super cool person. You've hit it off and you're holding hands and kissing. This is great.

Now imagine like holding hands and kissing at like your D&D games. Maybe it's great for you two but think of the looks of horror coming from your friends. This is where we run into the PDA divide, where your focus is on your new significant other, and ours is on keeping our bile from rising.

(Oh god, that's just not attractive.)
In the beginning of a relationship, it's really easy to get caught up in the smooshy faced romance of it all. You want to be around them all the time, you want to know what they ate for lunch. You want to make out constantly. Again, that's great--for you two. If you don't know how to keep your lovey-doveyness in check, you're going to want to make your friends vomit when you tell them about how cute your new bf/gf's toes are.

If you want to keep your friends during this critical honeymoon period, remember a few things; there are other things in your life to talk about other than your significant other, please also talk those things. Second, keep your PDAs (kisses, hugs, cuddling) discreet and to a minimum. When you're alone, go wild, but in public keep it on the DL, your friends will thank you for it. Third, your friends don't really need to know all the dirty details of your love life. Also, it's a bit trashy to share personal information like that. Some things need to remain a mystery.

This is not to say that we're not disgustingly happy for you, b/c we are. But there is such a thing as too much information, and especially if your friends are not in a relationship or in a bad one, it can make them feel worse about their situation, so also be sensitive to other people's feelings (I know, I'm talking about being sensitive to other people? Shocking!!).

Ok, next week's topic, basic social skills! (b/c some of us just don't have them.)

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