I know a lot of people (nerd guys especially) that sit and mope and pine after a girl for what seems like forever. You as a geek also probably know a lot of people who do this, and it is likely that you have also engaged in this type of behavior. I know I did.
Pining while romantic and it's what all the people did like in the Jane Austin and Bronte books, it is not productive (how many of them died with unrequited love?!). When you love from afar, you probably have a distorted idealized view of the person. Despite the fact that you think you know a lot about her, you don't know what it would be like to date her, b/c you haven't dated her. You might have seen her date other people, but you haven't dated her and it is not the same.
It's possible that she likes you back and you'll never know unless you try. Here's really how this all breaks down:
*She doesn't know you like her, she likes you.
*She doesn't know you like her, she doesn't like you.
*She knows you like her, and she likes you back but is waiting for you to make a move.
*She knows you like her, but doesn't like you back and can't tell you that b/c you haven't told her yet and therefore you won't be able to move on to a girl who would like you.
In all of these situations, it's better to just ask the person out in an non-ambiguous way and b/c she either likes you or she doesn't and if she doesn't, you can move on instead of waiting and waiting and waiting for her to notice.
Ultimately doing nothing and sitting around idolizing a girl makes you emo and annoying. And if the girl you like ends up dating someone else b/c you're sitting on your butt, you're just going to get more emo b/c you'll think things like, "why didn't I ask her out, that guy's a jerk, I'd be a way better boyfriend." Well sucker, you didn't ask her out, so who's fault is it? Emo gets you no where, being bold and directly asking someone out gets results and even if they aren't the results you want, at least something happened, change happened and with change comes the possibility of better things.
So grab the bull by the horns. B/c honestly, would you rather be alone and depressed and mopey or find out how they feel and possibly start a new relationship or be freed to find a new possible partner? If you really would rather just be mopey, go find someone else to whine to about how awesome so and so is...b/c you know what I think--carpe jugulum--I mean, carpe diem.
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