Match.com is another one of the big services. You pay a monthly fee and there are a lot of people on Match but I think Match although it's paid, you are competing with a lot of other guys for the attention of a few women b/c there is no limit to the amount of people you can message in a day. I don't know what the ratio of men to women on it is but probably there are more guys on the site and more of them are messaging more women than women are messaging men. This is the way of the online dating world. A guy friend of mine found Match very frustrating for this very fact, that you're going to send out a ton of messages and get very very few responses. Knowing that women are going to get inundated with tons of messages, if you choose to test those waters, you are going to have to make your profile and messages really outstanding. The other problem is there is no great way to evaluate the other person on match other than their picture and what they choose to put in their profile. So you might be intrigued by someone who writes for a magazine, however, they forgot to mention that they're really high strung and like to go out all time when you're a giant chill homebody. Or in my brother's case, he just dates a string of crazy girls from Match.
Geek2Geek and Shaadi are two specialty online dating sites. Geek2Geek is by geeks for geeks and I like the idea that you very specifically say what kind of geek you are. My worry is that, just b/c you both love the same geeky things, doesn't automatically mean you'll get along. But on the other hand, you'll be sure to meet someone who appreciates those geeky qualities in you and is probably used to slightly asocial behaviors. Shaadi is an Indian Matrimony website. Websites like this or like JDate or other very specific online dating services cater to people who are very particular about the kind of people they want to meet. I dunno if I would use this kind of dating service but if having who shares the same background/values as you is very important to you, this might be the kind of service for you. Just look around, there are a ton of different kinds, my friend even told me about a kind where you can just meet like firefighters and police for those people who love people in uniform. But the thing to remember about these kinds of dating services is the more specific and niche you’re getting the smaller the pool is. You may meet the most awesome person ever, but they also might live across the country from you, so be prepared for long distance relationships. Chemistry I have not used, but friends who have say it's somewhat similar to Eharmony b/c it provides the matches for you and I've had friends who have had success with it.
There are as I mentioned, a lot of these online dating websites. I would generally stick to the larger ones just b/c you have more people that you could meet from it, also I just read a book where some kid runs a scam dating website but it’s all him pretending to be the other person online (for anyone interested in that book, that’s only part of the story of Evil Genius by Catherine Jinks, pretty interesting book.).
Ok, any comments, things to add? Other experiences with different online dating services?
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have you ever tried those meet-and-greet dating services? it's where you meet at a restaurant, chat with someone for five minutes, then move on to the next person?
Speed dating? I haven't tried it. This summer I was going to try it with a girl friend of mine but I didn't get to do it. I'm not sure how successful it would be for geeks anyhow b/c sometimes we don't make the best first impressions.
I'm not sure how successful it. Free Online Dating
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