Somethings are great to do early: homework, your taxes, Christmas shopping. Somethings not so much, like dumping a someone b/c they might become crazy in the future. I think that it's fairly common to freak about about starting a relationship esp if your past history involved some not so great people. But don't let your past dictate your future.
If you see actual signs of craziness then be wary. If you're worried b/c they aren't crazy, then you probably just worry too much. So if you're having fun and the person seems like a nice guy, just go with the flow. Don't freak out b/c nothing has gone wrong yet. Sometimes if you're lucky, they won't!
We can't predict what will happen in the future. I mean, you could be with perfect* person and later they have a brain thing that changes their personality. You can't know what will happen. So if you like them for who they are now, that's all you can really ask for. We geeks like to plan but you can't plan for everything...unless you're Batman, in which case, go ahead.
So in conclusion, don't break up with someone b/c you might see the crazy eyes in the future. Only dump someone for something they actually did. I heard some story about girls who got mad at their boyfriends b/c of something they did in a dream. That's nuts, don't be that person.
Last thought, remember how crappy it was in Minority Report? That's all I have to say.
*There is no such thing as the perfect person. Don't delude yourself.
2 comments:
I dunno, I feel like it's important to recognize red flags early on.
Also, was I justified for getting pissed at my ex for calling me the wrong name in his sleep? (It was someone who had left him a lot of flirtatious comments on FB, so it made me super paranoid.)
There's red flags yes...but there's also just being paranoid for things that they really didn't do. I'm only referring to things that happened in your brain only.
I dunno if you can blame someone for their sleep. I have weird obsessions in my sleep. Do I really want to get with Christian Bale? No but he's in my dream anyhow. The real life FB stuff is a problem. The saying the wrong name in the sleep is a symptom of the larger problem i think.
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