At this point you’re probably fairly excited about the other person, as I would say that the majority of connections online will never get to this point (citation: my own brain). I say be excited, but don’t be too excited b/c it’s only a first date and while there are plenty of stories about people knowing they’ve just meet the one on their first date, there are also plenty of first date horror stories. So I’m here to just let you know a couple of things that I’ve noticed from my own experiences or from information from my friends about their experiences.
What to Do:
Here is another good time to try Yelp for ideas and also refer back to my article on It’s Ok to Make Decisions Too. I think it’s nice to try to meet in the middle for dates, don’t invite someone to your house b/c it’s too soon for that, so meet at a public area or at the date location. I think in this day and age it’s not necessary for the guy to pick up the girl for the first date, also for safety reasons, she might be very uncomfortable with that, so just agree to meet somewhere. Even though guys don’t have to pick up girls anymore, you may be expected to drive more than halfway, this is still the burden of being the guy.
If you’re not too familiar with good places in-between your house and her house, try Yelp! It’s a good website for these sorts of things. Also don’t be afraid to ask friends for recommendations or ideas too. If you are meeting in an area that she isn’t as familiar with and you are, you might want to do the bulk of the planning.
I think going for coffee is not a great date. It’s really non committal and not everyone loves coffee. I think if you wanted to arrange a quick meetup date, at least go for ice cream or yogurt instead, it’s a bit more fun plus you won’t end up with coffee breath.
I like the idea of brunch as a date idea b/c it’s less formal than lunch or dinner, it’s cheaper and as a guy you’ll probably be paying for the majority of first dates also, so it’s nice to conserve money if possible and not have to shell out $50 on a lobster dinner. Brunch is also kinda fun, just don’t go to Ihop or Denny’s, but look for a cute breakfast café to eat at. Also the good thing about a brunch, if the date goes really well, she might suggest you guys hang out after brunch too!
Other good ideas could be going to a museum (any kind, art, science, natural history, train anything you guys both find interesting), going to a county fair or local festival (it can be cheesy but it’s sometimes fun to do cheesy things together), easy and short hikes or walks at the beach (if you’re not very athletic and outdoorsy like me), or botanical gardens (as long as the weathers good).
Things to avoid on the first date:
Stinky foods (just in case)
Messy foods (b/c rib bibs are not attractive)
Any activity that makes you sweaty and stinky (unless that’s what you’re going for).
Continued tomorrow!!!!
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