It’s Ok to Make Decisions Too

Greetings readers! Sorry about the late post today.

But continuing with our blog on online dating, I’m going to skip topics a bit and move to one very near and dear to my heart, It’s Ok to Make Decisions Too.

If you’re with someone else and you’re trying to come up with plans for later, and the other person asks you, “What do you want to do?” don’t respond with, “I dunno, what do you want to do?”

I think that a lot of geeks will respond with “I dunno” for a couple of reasons.

First, apathy, sometimes they really just don’t care, but you should because we want you to care. Or at least, pretend to care. But it’s best if you really care, b/c it shows you’re putting effort into the relationship.

Second, just don’t know. This geek does care but doesn’t have good ideas. Well, instead of just saying, “I dunno,” maybe say, “Let brainstorm some ideas” or something! If you’re looking for places to eat, try Yelp.com. It’s a good place to get recommendations for food. There are lots of resources that can give you good ideas for other things to do too and not all of them cost money either! A little creativity and research can go along way. Also, maybe keeping a list of things you’ve always wanted to do together could be useful. B/c you’ll encounter things where you’ll say, “oh that sounds cool, we should do that someday,” and if you keep a list of those things, those somedays could be a reality!


Third, trying to be accommodating. Sometimes geeks want to be nice and let the other person decide. Well, if the other person has already asked you for your opinion, they probably really want your opinion, otherwise, they would have said something like, “How about we go for Mexican food for dinner and then play video games after that?” As a friend put it, trying to be accommodating like this all the time, just makes you look super indecisive. So, state some opinions! The worst thing that will happen is you’ll be shot down. Sometimes too easy going is not a good thing.

This is advice that could really apply while in a relationship or for making first date plans.

So that’s the bit o’ info for today! I think tomorrow's will be on How To Choose People To Contact.